Marge Piercy said: “A strong woman is a woman determined to do something others are determined not be done.” Tell us about a time when you did what couldn’t be done.
Here’s the thing: if something truly can’t be done, then it can’t be done. Surely this statement refers to when others do not want the something in question to be done. Taking this point of view, I believe everybody as done tons of things that others were determined should not be done. Some are big one-off victories. Just as important are the everyday wins that serve to keep you going between the perceived big moments.
I’ll list some of mine here:
- Giving The Dog Who is Allergic to Being Clean a bath (messy, wet, wrestling involved, but she looks and smells so good for at least 5 minutes afterward)
- Buying a motorbike at age 17 (girls don’t drive motorbikes…yeah right)
- Persuading brother to allow 17 y.o. nephew to get a car (took said nephew shopping for motorbikes, causing brother to instantly drag nephew to nearest car showroom)
- Getting The New Cats to share space with The Resident Dogs (distribution of many bribes, especially to Extremely Offended Cats, has resulted in feline-canine Perestroika)
- Obtaining an upgrade from my mobile phone provider when it wasn’t due (their fault, the website was wonky and said I could have one… so there!)
- Winning that fencing competition as related in Pressure: Strength
- Having a cranky, complaining client relent and thank you for helping them (dealing with cranky customers taught me how to get what I wanted out of the mobile phone provider)
- Got back on the horse after the story in Daily Post: Fast Forward (you could have been killed, why do it again? Because it made me feel alive, of course)
I’m not a mother, but I imagine that having junior eat and sleep well, put down the game console, do homework, and be safe demands massive determination, every day, 24-7, and that a fair proportion of the posts on this topic will describe feats of parenting against all the objections that junior can raise. Those daily struggles of will may seem mundane, but if mum perseveres, the cumulative effect on junior is invaluable. So don’t limit yourself to just one victory in one blog – make sure to give yourself credit as often as you can for the so-called “small stuff” too.